I’m 75% decided that I want to move. We went to see the house this weekend. It needs quite a bit of work and modernisation, but it’s a solid house and the area is ok. I walked to the local shops while I was there and all I could hear was birdsong. It was nice. Granted, in the summer we will be annoyed by the planes from Heathrow, but we have double glazing and you get used to it.
I have been thinking.. You only have one life. Why stay in the same place because you are afraid of change? Imagine what I could be missing out on! And yes, it might not work out. And if it doesn’t, then I’m sure we’ll manage. We have a fall back-a roof over our heads if we need it. What else do we need? We can move again if needs be.
I have also been thinking about my career. I want to go somewhere where I am valued. Where my ideas are taken on board. Where the company want to keep me and so are willing to offer me training to move up to the next level. I want possibilities of promotion, secondment and project work.
I don’t want a super sized salary. I’d like enough to be able to pay my bills, get a mortgage, have a pension and save a little bit for holidays or to get married. I’m willing to learn and work for respect and promotion. I don’t expect it to be handed to me. But I do want it to be possible. And I don’t have that where I am at the moment. Partly it’s because the service I work for is very small. And partly it’s because there isn’t a culture of promotion from within.
I have the capability to work above this level: I just don’t have the confidence. I don’t think I’m going to get that where I am now.
There are other reasons I want to move away from this area, but the pros and cons is another post. The 25% wanting to stay here is made up of:
10% being close to the sea-the beauty, the calmness of it and the milder weather.
10% My job and having people I can safely talk to about it. My agents, the clients and the feeling of being respected by my agents.
5% fear. Fear that I won’t get another job with my sickness record this year (so why even try). Fear that I will hate it once I move. Fear that I won’t make any friends.
But at the end of it all, you only live once. I want to regret the things I did rather than the things I didn’t do.